Spice Up Your Sex Life With These Tricks Experts Say Actually Work

You’re probably used to taking it all off when you have sex, but relationship sexpert Dr. Juliana Morris suggests leaving something on—from a fierce pair of heels to a sweet string of pearls—getting almost naked can bring out your sexy side. Men, try going commando, and just unzip your jeans! (That’s a lot hotter than leaving your socks on, isn’t it?) “Doing the opposite of what you usually do can feel exciting,” she says.

Plan a date with your partner, and act like you’re meeting up with your lover, while you both (pretend to) leave your partners at home. (Use your imagination!) According to intimacy expert and certified Ayurvedic educator Coltrane Lord, part of the reason why couples cheat (which we're not suggesting you do IRL) is to feel more sexually uninhibited, simply because it’s taboo—so who knows where a faux affair can lead you. Even prepping for it may make you hot with anticipation.

“I want to introduce you to a mind-blowing concept—flavored lube during oral sex,” says Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and founder of the Sirius XM show and podcast Sex With Emily. Even if you aren’t a big fan of oral, knowing you’re getting a sweet treat could be a relationship game changer.

“Have sex on the kitchen counter. Get it on in the hallway. Do it on the couch or in your bedroom closet,” says Morris. “It doesn’t matter where, just pick a place that isn’t your usual spot.” According to Morris, the new smells, sounds, lighting and textures will help keep your sex life on its toes.