health tips for the first time you have sex

Whether it’s with an older sibling, friend or doctor - talk to someone mature and experienced about your decision. Sure, you might feel certain of it in your head at the moment but discussing it out loud can help process the decision on a deeper level. It might scare you a little, and even raise some questions you hadn’t thought about yet. That’s okay, it just means you’ll be even more ready once you find the solutions and move past the hurdles.

If anyone has told you that you don’t need to prepare anything and it’ll all come to you naturally - they’re wrong. We can all do with a little bit of preparation so we’re not caught off-guard by any situation that may come up. Read up about sexual intercourse, methods of protection, sexually transmitted diseases, sexual organs and erogenous zones. Then, make sure you have everything you could need like condoms and lubricants. You can pick a few kinds at any drug store if you’re not sure what’ll work best - order them online or ask a friend to go with you if you’re nervous.

The most important part about having sex — the first time, last time or any time in between — is consent. It should be verbal and enthusiastic; don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. There will be some people who will try to downplay it or joke about it. Reconsider your decision if you feel unsafe at any point. No means no, stop means stop - make sure your partner understands and respects that.

You may be tempted to try and impress your partner with some sexy positions and tricks - and if you’re extremely flexible and fit, they might even come easily to you. But you won’t know how it’ll really feel until you try it and it’s safer to take it one step at a time when it comes to exploring with sex. The first time is never the best - but it gets better without having to go to extremes.